KingCharles34
All Star
The most recent source of your article was from 1998; that page is 14 years old, I cannot take that and say it is credible in 2012.
You have one source from the late 90s, I will raise you seven, from the past decade:
http://discovermagazine.com/2007/jun/born-gay
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/sites/entrez?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=8332896&dopt=Abstract
http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn6519
http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn6612
http://www.livescience.com/7056-mom-genetics-produce-gay-sons.html
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=having-older-brothers-inc
http://www.webmd.com/brain/news/20080616/gay-brain-shows-gender-atypical-traits
I wonder how much money the gay community has funded these websites to show this false information
Im not saying bullying is right, although i do think a certain amount is good for everyone. Repeated bullying is a problem and i think some of it comes down to bad parenting and teachers not getting involved, i just dont feel bad for gays anymore. They have it much better then they ever did, I dont think they even get it that bad at school anymore. Its different now even compared to 10 years ago. Kids in the hood have it the worst, where the stakes are life or death. More attention should be payed to the streets if anything, where kids get hit by stray bullets. Where crack babies are born, where women are kidnapped and forced into a life of drugs and porn. No need to be a captain save a gay here, i said what i had to say. I respect other posters that have different opinions then me, its not a big deal. What do u think i want everybody to think exactly the same way i do? There'd be no need for knicksonline.com, we'd all agree about everythingYou're right - most people get bullied at some point, and most people get passed it. But some people are bullied constantly everyday for years. And where it wouldn't be a huge deal if it was just a once in a while thing, when it happens consistently for a long time, it adds up. And a lot of times it extends to physical bullying - kids getting beat up etc. I wish every kid could respond more positively to this stuff, but apparently many feel there's no hope to the point that they kill themselves.
There's a difference between true bullying and just screwing around with your friends. I don't think anyone on this site was being a true bully - but I do think bullying is a big problem out there. With true bullying, there is an intent to hurt or embarass, it happens repeatedly, and there is a power imbalance between the person bullying and the person getting bullied. In my opinion, it's a form of abuse just like any other. Plenty of people beat their girlfriends and wives, but that doesn't mean we should just turn the other way and accept it as part of our "culture". We should do something about it.
As far as the whole "snitch" thing goes, what would be ideal is if kids stick up for each other - that's been shown to be far more effective than just telling a teacher, and what I encouraged kids to do in our bullying programs in schools. Just like your friend who joined the football team, I guess. I guess that's why kids join gangs, too. But I think there is a difference between being a snitch (trying to get someone in trouble) and being an ally - trying to help someone who needs it.
No doubt you went through some crap and came through okay. But not everyone's the same as you, and different kids respond differently. Ideally, they would learn to be assertive and stand up for themselves, but some people haven't learned those skills and shouldn't be driven to depression or suicide because of that.