Cheating on a girlfriend is NOT ADULTERY. That can only happen when two people are married. But to answer your question NO, I've never cheated on the person I was in a relationship with. Are we talking about love or the act of sex? Cheating on anyone 9/10 is not going to make them feel loved and appreciated...same as if you are married and show no affection...the fact that two folks are married doesn't mean they are in love..the assumption is atleast that they should be in love. Many a married people in loveless marriages out there in the real world.
Sex does not benefit the whole mankind, it benefits the individuals having sex.Now if you want to talk about mankind overall...To be fair if you look at population growth..people are having too much sex from an economic and environmental standpoint. However, this is still not to say sex need be moral. The people I see having 4,5,6,7, kids tend to be religious and don't actually have a need for that many kids, especially in these modernized times. Often they quote "be fruitful and multiply" as their reasoning, even though they cannot afford themselves to support the families they've created.
Abortion in this aspect would BENEFIT mankind if more people had access to them..and got over the IDIOTIC notion that a fetus is life. The only reason I mentioned the bible in this matter is simply because if folks are going to claim GOD is against abortion...and take the bible as his literal word...well according to GOD, life begins after birth..not at conception.
"And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man BECAME A LIVING SOUL" (Gen. 2:7)
Having sex before marriage is not harmful when the right precautions are taken. Your equating medical necessity with morality. For example, circumsision has no medical benefit to the child unless you are talking about warding off possible infection. But at the same time...it's done largely not for medical reasons...but religious reasons. Second, female circumsision is done in the name of religious reasons...and those are 100% not medically necessary to cut the clitoris..it's only done to a female so she will not have the pleasure of enjoying sexual intercourse because fools believe that it will lessen her sex drive..which it will..but is this appropriate for anyone to decide but the individual female in question?!
RATES OF DIVORCE
They had interviewed 3,854 adults from the 48 contiguous states. The margin of error is ?2 percentage points. The survey found:
http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm
Denomination (in order of decreasing divorce rate) % who have been divorced
Non-denominational... 34%
Baptists.... 29%
Born-again Christians... 27%
Other Christians .... 24%
Mainline Protestants ... 25%
Mormons .... 24%
Catholics ... 21%
Lutherans ... 21%
Jews.... 30%
Atheists, Agnostics...21%
Donald Hughes, author of The Divorce Reality, said:
"In the churches, people have a superstitious view that Christianity will keep them from divorce, but they are subject to the same problems as everyone else, and they include a lack of relationship skills. ...Just being born again is not a rabbit's foot."
Ron Barrier, Spokesperson for American Atheists remarked on these findings with some rather caustic comments against organized religion. He said:
"These findings confirm what I have been saying these last five years. Since Atheist ethics are of a higher caliber than religious morals, it stands to reason that our families would be dedicated more to each other than to some invisible monitor in the sky. With Atheism, women and men are equally responsible for a healthy marriage. There is no room in Atheist ethics for the type of 'submissive' nonsense preached by Baptists and other Christian and/or Jewish groups. Atheists reject, and rightly so, the primitive patriarchal attitudes so prevalent in many religions with respect to marriage.
Associated Press' confirmation of Barna's results:
The Associated Press analyzed divorce statistics from the US Census Bureau. They found that Massachusetts had the lowest divorce rate in the U.S. at 2.4 per 1,000 population. Texas had the highest rate at 4.1 per 1,000. They found that the highest divorce rates are found in the "Bible Belt."
According to the Boston Globe:
"The AP report stated that 'the divorce rates in these conservative states are roughly 50 percent above the national average of 4.2 per thousand people.' The 10 Southern states with some of the highest divorce rates were Alabama, Arkansas, Arizona, Florida, Georgia, Mississippi, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, and Texas. By comparison nine states in the Northeast were among those with the lowest divorce rates: Connecticut, Massachusetts, Maine, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, and Vermont."
One reason for the higher divorce rates in the Bible Belt may be the lower percentage of Roman Catholics in the South. Their denomination does not recognize divorce. Other reasons could be related more to culture than religion:
A)Couples in the South enter their first marriages at a younger age.
B)Family incomes in the South are lower.
C)Educational attainment is lower in the South: One in three Massachusetts residents have completed college. while only 23% of Texans have
The number is not based on sheer numbers...it's based on an even sampling of all groups identifying in that to their religious or philosopic principles. I.e. 100 christians, 100 muslims, 100 atheists...etc...so the number is based accurately on percentage not just in terms of 100 christians and say 20 atheists. So you are incorrect here as to how the numbers are calcuated.
Being married is has nothing to do with religion in all honesty. It's a contract. To live by a moral code one need NOT be religious either. Plenty of moral people that make good sound decisions as to what is good/bad without ever having picked up a holy book. Take buddhists prime example...very moral people. 99% never any contact with the Christian Bible...yet far more peaceful, loving and accepting. So you are incorrect here as well. To be an atheist does not mean you are immoral by any means. But to state one gets morality from a holy book is absurd simply because YOU DO NOT FOLLOW EVERY MORAL TENET OF THE BIBLE. If you were biblically moral you would follow them all...as you would believe them to be the perfect words of GOD. The moment you disagree with any moral precept of the bible which you place so much stake in..then you've just proved my point about the bible not being the basis for morality. But I do not think you can understand this point.
Well the Bible does have stories of rape, war, violence, death, punishment, hellfire, brimstone, demons, angels, starvation, plagues, destruction. No different than your violent video game.
No such thing as improper sex between consenting persons. You mean the sex you folks have with children be it the priests, pastors, or even congregations in the midwestern US? That is the only example of "improper sex" I can think of readily. Sex between two consenting persons is not wrong...it's just plain lucky.
Having sex before one is married is a personal choice. It never was/nor will it ever be a law that a) is enforceable, b) realistic. Once again you folks separation from reality prevents you from dealing with these problems in a logical manner.
Do you folks really believe that constantly telling people when they are horny..(Don't do it) is simply going to be enough? And then what are us "caring" people supposed to do with the one's that slip up and do contract a disease or get pregnant? Would it be "Christian" of us to say **** em you are on your own now? Would it be fair to let them die of the disease? Or would it be SMART to give them the RIGHT information about STD', and pregnancy prevention as any rational, just, caring human being would? Only a twisted mind would say "YES" to all the questions before the 4th one.
If people had the facts and the medical supplies they needed they'd be better off.
Mumbo jumbo from the sky daddy about how your going to burn in hell over this..when sex is not only a natural act..but also by your logic built humans to be sexual in the first place ..so it's his fault. When the design ****s up, blame the designer...PERIOD.
Adam in no rush to bang Eve, those kids poppped out kind of quick. But the fact remains according to the story, had they not eaten the fruit...they and we according to your logic..would still be naked. Didn't exactly see him go for a condom...after all she was dirty since they sinned now. The bible never states they got married, all it states that they were together. Then again..wasn't a third choice around either...sure took her as his wife..but never states there was a ceremony to be exact.
Your daughters need a rational father that can prepare them for the world they are in, not the world you think it should be. You would bang the neighbor lady if you truly desired to do so, being married and having two girls is not standing in your way of doing the act. You choose to do it, or not do it. Simple. Well according to Islam and the Bible, you as a man have dominance over her. If you wanted to knock her teeth in..biblically speaking you'd be justified.
So who matters more to you...YOUR GOD...OR YOUR FAMILY? If GOD spoke to you right now..and told you...to kill them...would you listen? Or seek psychiatric help first?
Having a good time with family, supporting them has nothing to do with GOD once again. Because there being no GOD, suggests that you would leave them and **** them over. But if GOD is the only reason you are doing the right thing by your family..then something is wrong with you on a level I know I cannot reach. Marriage in the end is what people make of it, there are some marriages that should end..some that are great...and some that you don't know why the hell those two ever got married.
GOD FEARING...People that would fear their own GOD. Not even going to get into how moronic that truly sounds. Nor even right if one is truly of the opinion GOD is loving and forgiving. One should never have to fear what they love..and if they do..then it's not love..it is fear.
People if they waited till marriage once again..personal choice. But I have to deal with reality that a) not everyone is going to do that, b) it's not fair to penalize them if they did. I do not think them contracting AIDS, unwanted pregnancy, herpes...is a fair punishment for them deciding to have unprotected sex.
If your daughters decided at say 17 to have sex...not be married...would you rather the guy use a condom or not? I just WANT A YES OR NO ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION.
(Let's just assume they this one time...don't listen to you. As a great many of teenagers do not listen to their parents.)
Life does not begin at conception..nor is a fetus life. Therefore there is nothing wrong with abortion. PERIOD.
As a parent you should always be up on what your kids are reading, watching, doing..etc. However, the most important thing is not controlling what they do in the sense making you more officer than parent. But rather, empowering them with the KNOWLEDGE to make SMARTER decisions about their choices. And get them to think of the consequences. There will come a day when you can NO longer decide for them, and when their knowledge about the world will exceed your own. If you feel you must control your kids in order to "raise them properly" then something you missed. Your not raising children..you have adults in training. They are going to be adults far longer than they will ever be children. No parent wants to see their child get hurt, or do something dumb...or make a mistake that is truly irreversible. It's not harder to raise children..any parent that would leave television, magazines, the internet, neigbors to raise their children for them..doesn't and should never have been a parent in the first place! PERIOD. You are their to GUIDE, that's all you are a GUIDE. No more no less. Guide them well, and guide them with honesty and truth of the world they are living in...to set them up with false hopes, ideas, about what is out there..is only going to make it harder for them to not only adjust...but to cope when something happens. And then the blame will be on you..for not preparing them for that aspect of life.