OGKnickfan
Enlightened
All of us long-term members know that this place was, and possibly will continue to be, a madhouse: people posting pics, cursing each other out, etc. And I think it was funny and harmless, in and of itself. The problem is when people, whether attacked or attacking, take things seriously.
If someone makes a statement, and one ridicules the statement, rather than respectfully contemplating on it, and, if one does not agree, suggesting an alternative, it can cause anger and conflict. One should not be surprised if they try to ridicule their perceived opponent, because our society is competitive and power-based in nature. We believe that some of must win and some of must lose.
Now, I don't know if either of you were taking the argument seriously. Certainly, posting pictures of friends and family is unnecessary and shows one is sensitive to one's self-image, when being responded to with anger, rather than the other person's feelings and the need to make things right.
In addition, it's important that one not forget the part one plays in starting a conflict, which is the result of not being tactful, as well as not seeing good intentions in someone else's comments and ultimate goals. It is key to not create a monster out of someone else, by respecting their opinion, and thus not make them see you as a monster, when both of you are decent human beings.
PEACE
If someone makes a statement, and one ridicules the statement, rather than respectfully contemplating on it, and, if one does not agree, suggesting an alternative, it can cause anger and conflict. One should not be surprised if they try to ridicule their perceived opponent, because our society is competitive and power-based in nature. We believe that some of must win and some of must lose.
Now, I don't know if either of you were taking the argument seriously. Certainly, posting pictures of friends and family is unnecessary and shows one is sensitive to one's self-image, when being responded to with anger, rather than the other person's feelings and the need to make things right.
In addition, it's important that one not forget the part one plays in starting a conflict, which is the result of not being tactful, as well as not seeing good intentions in someone else's comments and ultimate goals. It is key to not create a monster out of someone else, by respecting their opinion, and thus not make them see you as a monster, when both of you are decent human beings.
PEACE